On her relationship with Daniel Ademinokan
“Let
me put it this way. Let me help you hit the nail on the head. One of
the comments I have seen consistently, over and over again, is ‘Stella
snatches somebody’s husband’, ‘Stella the husband snatcher’, which is
what has been going on. And I had sworn that I would never talk about
it, or even listen or stress myself about this thing but I have decided
to do this now, so that I end this once and for all.
First of
all, let me paint a picture for you and you let me know what makes sense
to you. When I looked up the word snatch or steal, ehh, let’s go to the
dictionary. It means, forcefully taking something away from its
original position. Forcefully. From its original position to another
position. Something that does not belong to you. That’s what I gathered
from the word snatch or steal.
So I looked at me, Stella, and I
wondered to myself, how is it possible to go to somebody’s home, and
take a man, and take his son, away from his home and say follow me. You
are a man, and according to their story, he is happily married inside
his home. With his family complete and I walk into that home, to
forcefully take a man, abled bodied man, and a kid, away from somebody’s
hand and you are there looking at me. How does that work?
Did
they accuse me of using voodoo? Yes or no? They said no. Okay, did I put
a gun on anybody’s head and remove somebody from somewhere? They said
no. So logically, if people actually sit down and think about it
intelligently, how do you snatch somebody from somebody and the person
is there looking at you?
So when you see a man who has settled
ties with a woman and decides to move on with his life and you feel that
there is something in this man that you like and he likes you. I am not
a kid. I am 36 years old. I am not about to start hiding myself. I was
waiting for somebody to actually ask me this question, because all I
have heard for the past two, three years are rumours. They said, blogs
said, this said. Nobody has been bold enough to confront me and ask me.
So I say, if I steal something from somebody, and the person is really
the owner of the thing, you come and ask me, ‘you took something from
me, give me back’.
But nobody was able to that. And I am like, if
I meet an abled bodied man that has left and moved on. That is not even
in the same house with whoever and is not doing anything with whoever,
and both parties have decided this thing is not going anywhere, and they
have gone their separate ways, why is it that it easier for the world
to blame the woman that the man has decided to end up with?
Why
is it that it is always that woman that scattered that home? The two
people that did things that nobody was there, nobody said something must
have happened between this two people but it is always somebody else
that is the problem. And I always say, I do not tolerate blaming anybody
for your own problems. I have had problems.
After my late
husband’s death, I got married again and the marriage didn’t work. After
eight (8) months, it crashed. People didn’t hear much about it, why? We
were both mature to understand that we came together, we knew that the
thing was not working, instead of us to become enemies we will remain
friends, let’s just let it go quietly. And we let it go quietly. I
didn’t blame anybody else for doing it, he didn’t blame anybody else for
doing it. So I am wondering, two people come together they go their
separate ways, this one meets somebody, all of a sudden, it is that
somebody that is the problem. Did anybody ever ask, what went wrong? Why
would a man pick up his son and walk away from his marriage?
Was
there anytime another woman was the problem until the man moved on with
another woman? Nobody brought up Stella’s name, then all of a sudden,
‘oh he’s moved on with somebody else (snaps fingers), it must be her’.
How? I am still waiting for somebody to come with proof to say ‘oh when
they were still in marriage, when they were still in a house, you came
and did this.’ So the reason why I don’t like talking about it is that,
there are some things I would say to you and you would look at me like
‘oh wow’ but I don’t want to be derogatory, I don’t want to tow the line
that other people have towed by talking bad about people.
I
would never do that but the stories started coming. At first I ignored
it, I just kept quiet, and then it was all over the place, Google,
blogs, and I am like, one day, one day, I would tell my story. There’s a
reason why I am respecting certain people, respecting certain legal
issues that are going on. So there might be some things I may not hammer
on, but whenever you hear this person snatched this person’s, you will
ask the person, the person that they said was the original owner, what
was the person doing when they were snatching the person from him or
her? I don’t get it. Do you understand?
So I look at it, I am not
ugly, I am not dumb. Of all the men in the world, I will now go and
look for somebody else’s own and say this is the one I want. If he
didn’t come out of it and say I want to be with you and you want to be
with me, how? Why would I come and grab…? Am I that bad looking? Am I
that old?.”
